How to Decide What to Say YES or NO To: A Simple Guide for Mums, By MOB Member Zoe
Let’s be real: the world of boundaries can feel so confusing sometimes. On one hand, we’re told to embrace “the art of saying no” and live by “the joy of missing out (JOMO).” On the other hand, there’s the pressure to “say yes to new opportunities because you never know where they might lead.”
So...what are we actually supposed to do?
If you’re feeling stuck between saying yes or no—especially as a mum juggling a million things—I totally get it. That’s why I’m here to help! In this post, I’m sharing a super simple formula that’ll make it easier for you to decide what’s best for YOU.
And because the MOB and I love to talk about connection, we’re diving into how these decisions impact your relationships and energy. Let’s get into it!
Not All Connections Are Created Equal
I work with mums to help them reconnect—with themselves, their friends, their partners, and their communities. Why? Because meaningful connection can literally change your life.
Think about it: when you’re feeling connected, you’re more likely to experience:
Better mental health
A happier home life
A stronger sense of identity
But here’s the thing no one talks about: not all connections are good for you.
Some relationships will leave you feeling energized and uplifted, while others can feel draining and, frankly, exhausting. The key is to focus on the connections that bring you MORE energy.
How to Decide If You Should Say Yes or No
When you’re faced with a decision—whether it’s meeting up with a friend, committing to an event, or just making plans in general—ask yourself these two quick questions:
Do I usually feel more or less energised after spending time with this person?
Do I trust this person?
The goal is to prioritise relationships that leave you feeling more energised. And trust? That’s crucial too—especially as we navigate all the changes that come with motherhood.
A Quick Body Hack to Help You Decide
Still not sure? Here’s a little trick inspired by Polyvagal Theory (fancy, but I promise it’s easy):
Close your eyes and take three deep breaths.
Visualise meeting or chatting with the person you’re thinking about connecting with.
Pay attention to your body—not your thoughts.
Does your body feel tight or closed off? Or does it feel light and open?
If it’s the latter, that’s a green light to go ahead. This process takes less than a minute and is a game-changer for making decisions about your social life.
Why This Matters
Motherhood can be isolating—it’s just the truth. Many of us feel:
Lonely
Disconnected
Or like we’ve lost a part of ourselves in the process.
But it doesn’t have to stay that way.
I’m Zoe, mother, mob member and a connection expert, and my mission is to help mums rebuild their relationships—whether it’s with friends, partners, or even themselves. I’ve seen firsthand how meaningful connection can bring joy, energy, and a renewed sense of purpose into your life.
Let’s Work Together
If you’re ready to feel connected again, I’d love to help. You can:
Follow me on Instagram: @movethru_
Explore my 1-2-1 sessions or join my community, ReKindle Your Relationships: https://linktr.ee/movethru
Making decisions about what to say yes or no to doesn’t have to feel overwhelming. With these tools, you’ll be able to prioritize the connections that truly matter—and start feeling like you again.
You’ve got this!
